In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves… self-discipline with all of them came first.
— Harry S Truman
Hello, fellow warriors –
Digging around here in files buried in my computer’s basement. Rediscovering posts from the past. Vintage stuff that disappeared each time there was a redesign of the site. Must be 500 to 1,000 printed pages worth. Preparing to put most of it back online here at the blog.
I opened a classic, interesting file and it caused me to remember an email that got my attention. Now it’s time for me to have yours.
A guy asks:
“Warrior, I have two young kids around the same age as yours. Do you think that it is a normal development in a man’s life to have to give up so much of ourselves to give our kids the best lives possible that our own lives begin to fall into a rut from neglect of our own needs? Is the true measure of a man what he still does for himself or what he sacrifices for others?”
I really hate to see men conflicted about these things. It’s just not natural. A man should not be confused or wonder oddly about the most basic things that make for strong peace of mind and a stable life. A man is not supposed to be struggling with doubts and uncertainties inside himself.
If males paid more attention to their natural masculine instincts and thinking for themselves rather than today’s emasculated cultural role models and their sissified opinions and examples, they’d be able to settle their inner conflicts on their own. Like a man should be able.
It may be normal by today’s standards to entertain these kinds of ideas put forward in this inquiry, but it’s certainly NOT by traditional ones. Traditional standards are what I use and my life keeps turning out to be pretty damn solid and enjoyable, which gives me and my family a beautiful peace of mind. The simple, blunt, bold and no bs attitude of these is all I have to offer. If you want advice fit for today’s low standards, and evidence of its failures, follow Hulk Hogan on Twitter.
No, of course not, not for one damn second, in any whatsoever, is it normal for a father to think anything he does for his children is somehow a bothersome sacrifice or giving something up of himself or good enough reason to neglect his own needs and put himself and his life in a rut.
For a father to view the challenging choices he has before him as burdens instead of blessings, is to be devoted half-ass to performing his responsibilities as a provider.
And to believe you have to in some way compromise your duties as a man and father so that you can fulfill your own dreams and desires is weakness, pure and simple. Letting yourself go all to hell and your dreams rot is failure, pure and simple.
A father does it ALL — and he never once whines or complains about being blessed with the privilege and honor to do so. He doesn’t try to find a way out or around. He wakes each day and simply handles whatever it is that is going on in his life.
He meets the needs of his reality AND his dreams.
He gives up nothing — of his beliefs and aspirations (his DESTINY!) or of the day-to-day demands of providing the needs and security his family depends on him for.
He does not surrender squat when it comes to what truly matters. Working on his Destiny matters every bit as much as putting food on the table and clothes on his kids.
He doesn’t entertain any thought that it is impossible.
There are many true measures of a man.
One sure one is that a man gives all of himself to doing ALL of whatever he has before him in his life to do and he does it without sitting in his OWN pile of shit, pouting and asking himself, “Why me?”, or without trying to place the burden of doing it or blame for not getting it done on someone else, especially never his family.
Quit trying to find a way to escape or give yourself a break. Don’t be a V-man. Shut down the pansy-ass inner dialogue and suck it up and take full responsibility for the life you have created for yourself.
Listen to me. If you believe the only way you can ever go after your dreams is somehow escape the life you have now, that you created by your own damn choices, you are only setting yourself up for deeper resentment and regret. If you believe the only way to get the job done will be when there is no more day-to-day shit to shovel in your life, then you will be shoveling shit till the day you die.
One more thing. A father does not provide the best possible life for his kids by doing things in his life he finds no inspiration or enjoyment in just so he can make money to buy his kids things, whether they be toys, fashionable clothes, popular tech gadgetry, the biggest house on the block, etc.
One day — not long after the day you buy it — they will forget every single material thing you, whether for basic comfort or luxury, provided for them. But they will never forget the example you set and the energy and attitude that comes off of you.
Kids have powerful instincts. You don’t have to say anything about how you feel like your life is in a rut or that you regret giving up on your dreams or that you wish your life circumstances were different. Without one word, they will be able to read you like a book and they will know.
If you are really concerned about providing your kids the best possible life, set an example for them that they will use to positively and inspirationally guide themselves throughout the whole of their lives.
Scrap your sacrificial, selfless, superficial and conventional ideas. Find the energy, stamina, self-confidence, self-belief, and courage to leave behind the things that have you ruining yourself and get out there and fulfill the unique greatness inside of you.
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity,
Hello fellow warrior,
Henry Miller is one of my favorite writers.
His moral and political perspective is (was…he is dead) different than mine, but I admire him (and any other) for following the voice of his soul and living his whole life true to it — and never gave a fuck what anybody else would think.
I am inspired by human beings who do this. He paid a significant price in his early years by choosing to live life on his OWN terms, basically living like a vagabond, barely making it meal to meal. He was brilliant yet shunned traditional education to learn his craft on his OWN, and thereby, became one of the greatest, most uniquely talented writers America ever had. He was the master of HIS destiny.
Look at you. Are you? Are you willing? Have you given up? Have you even tried?
Do you really believe such an incredible one-of-a-kind creation such as yourself exists here to pass from birth to death without creating something equally one-of-a-kind?
The answer for all of us is no. In the privacy of our own minds we all have ideas, dream and visions that we know are great and would be wonderful creations to present to the world. We all believe in our solitary moments that we, too, came here to do things in, and with, our lives that will live forever.
Few, though, have the kind of courage it takes to bring them to life. Fear of losing and embarrassing ourselves keeps us from showing the whole world what we came here truly capable of. A whole lifetime many of us will live keeping the greatest parts of ourselves hidden.
As we go on with our living, there may be secrets we will want to keep to ourselves and take to our graves. But the unique creative genius within you is NOT one of them.
In fact, what right do you have to not use the creative gifts you were endowed with? Some of you don’t believe you OWN your life anyway. You think God OWNs it. And about that, I would agree with you, HE does — although my explanation of how He does doesn’t involve faith-based, guilt-ridden, mindless servitude. Anyway, the point is, if you don’t believe you OWN your life, if it’s not your property — where the hell do you get off thinking you can misuse and waste it?! Who the hell are you to throw its potential away?! Is there no sin in that?
As I’ve said many times over, you are NOT created the way you are to come here and squander it. You do this each time you “slaughter your finest impulses” and turn away from the “profound truths” you have the power to utter.
When is the last time you really stepped off the merry-go-round of the world circus and took a long, hard and honest look at yourself?
What’s driving you in your life? Are you doing what you are in your life just to keep up with all the mundane activity the routine haphazardness of your life has you penciled in for? Or are you doing in your life what you really want to do?
Who’s giving you your life directions? Who is really designating the course your life is on? Is it you? Or is it others, someone else?
What do you spend more time and energy doing? Listening to and following your OWN impulses and profound truths or handling and processing the bullshit from others it takes to make a paycheck to pay the bills to sustain a life that gives you no joy or satisfaction?
Are you using the powerful creative instruments within you to create an artistic life of everlasting meaning and inspiration? Or are you using the mechanized contraptions the other drones of the world use to live life as a tool and nothing else?
Don’t do a lot of “nothing that really matters” in your life only so you can afford to spend, spend, spend on “stuff that doesn’t really matter.” By the end of your life, be able to say, “I’m spent. I gave everything of myself that was unique and great. I’ve nothing left in myself, or of myself, to give that really does matter. I’m done, and I’m ready to go.”
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity –
Hello fellow warrior,
What with all that is going on this country right now, we could sure use George. Maybe two Georges. George Washington and George Patton. The courage. The character. Could go a long way in making things move along more nicely, constructively and prosperously than they are right now. Of course their strategies on how to get things done would not sit very well with the fence-sitting eunuchs of today, and there would probably be a lot of collateral damage to explain. Still, it’s an uplifting daydream to have on a hot summer afternoon.
I haven’t publicly discharged my opinion of the political state of things for quite some time. And I’m not going to now. Not here in this Warrior Wisdom piece because that is not what these are all about. Maybe later on Warrior’s Machete.
You have to admit, though, if I was in the mood to discuss what this country is going through right now, Patton’s words would make for a super premise to blast-off from.
I use Patton’s quote today because I like it. No, I LOVE IT!! It FIRES me up!! Nothing like a good ole’ GodDamnit or Fuck You to get a man motivated to get up off his ass and take action on something. And motivating and inspiring ourselves — kicking our OWN ass is what we warriors are all about, here.
Patton knew how to do it. He was a master of it — and he believed it was his Destiny! You have to love that!! That’s why his legacy is so admired and inspiring today. He kicked ass and never cared to take any names. It didn’t matter who the enemy was. To him, they all had the same name. Bastards. LOVE that!!
The GodDamned cowards you need to KILL are the pests inside your mind talking you out of getting out there and conquering the life that is yours for the taking. To make it happen you have to kill the GodDamned bastards off. Swat them down. Smash them into squishy unrecognizable goo. Visualize blowing them to smithereens in such a violent manner that you can feel the disintegrated ooze running down the inner walls of your skull. Render them unidentifiable!
Look, in many ways you’ve been lied to when it comes to how you get your life act together. Most of the crap out there you can turn to for guidance is touchy-feel-ly, telling you to look in your heart and find peacefulness, have patience and calm understanding, and learn to unconditionally love everyone else in the world. You know, hugs and kisses — the Chicken Soup stuff. Now, don’t get me wrong. I, too, can find some inspiring stories in that stuff, and there is nothing wrong with inspiration touching you on an emotional level that tugs at your heartstrings.
But the truth is, life — your everyday life — isn’t like that. Real life is a fucking meat grinder, not a warm, cuddly and cozy bowl of Chicken Soup. Peace and love and serenity and incense burning and sitting in the shape of a pretzel and humming Kumbaya isn’t going to lead you to your promise land — your Destiny. To get there — you have to WAR.
Take it from Patton, a Warrior General whom God saluted when he showed up at the Pearly Gates.
1. War is Hell. Nothing is pretty about it. Nothing smells good about it. Nothing feels good about it. It is ugly. It stinks. It is pain. This includes the war you must engage in your life to rid yourself of your doubts and weaknesses so that you can fulfill your Destiny.
2. There is no peace without there, first, being war. Between enemies, one good and the other evil, there first has to be war for there to be peace. Good must slaughter evil. Good must destroy evil’s will to fight. Good must bring evil not just to its knees — but to its death. You cannot find or make compromise with the doubts and weaknesses (evils) within you. There is no way of peacefully disarming them. You kill them violently and viciously.
To get in the mood for becoming your OWN One Warrior Nation, eat your meat raw and bloody, and keep your motivation aggressive and brutish.
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity –
“You enter the forest at the darkest point, where there is no path. Where there is a way or a path, it is someone else’s path. You are not on your own path. If you follow someone else’s way, you are not going to realize your potential.”
Hello fellow warrior,
Joseph Campbell spent his whole life studying human experience and the impact and effects mythology and religion have on it. The essence of his philosophy he put forth in this thought: “Follow your bliss.”
He wrote some great stuff. “The Hero with a Thousand Faces” is one book. It’s a classic — get it and read it.
Shortly before he died, he collaborated with PBS and did a series called The Power of Myth.
When talking about your myth(s) he said:
YOU ARE the LIGHT.
No one has the power to illuminate the path you came here to follow. Each time you ask, look or listen to others about what you should do in your life, the darkness only grows deeper.
You’ve stood at the edge of your OWN dark, mysterious forest long enough.
Be Brave. Act Bold. Step in and START following your OWN path.
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity –
“Without self knowledge, without understanding the working and functions of his machine, man cannot be free, he cannot govern himself and he will always remain a slave.”
Hello fellow warrior,
Everywhere I go today I see people being slaves to machines other than the great one they OWN. Little plastic and metal boxes, all of them wired to digital ether, where out of thin air the slaves exchange mostly nonsense and conformity. Hypnotized by the gadgetry, all the so-called individualists don’t blink an eye while they short-circuit and abandon the hardwiring of their own private and uncommon creativity.
Technology has done a hell of a lot more than simplify the organization, record-keeping and filing of information. It also simplified the task of turning human beings into slaves.
You may already be one. You want to pay attention to how and where you spend your time and energy to know for sure.
Brilliance and Greatness does not lie in a little box built of wires and chips. Brilliance and Greatness lies in the flesh, blood and bones of yourself.
Your Matter is what matters most, not the man-made Matter we can produce.
You have a purpose endowed within you as much as you are endowed with inalienable rights (and innate desires) to be Free in the pursuit of life, liberty and happiness.
It’s in your makeup to desire freedom because you are a “being” created able to handle its responsibility. But if you don’t use what you ARE to think and act for yourself, you won’t have freedom. On some level you will always be a slave to someone or something. It’s the certain consequence of not understanding the functions of your Human Machine and your refusal to govern yourself.
If you don’t master yourself, some other master will.
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity –
“In the battle of life it is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of a deed could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena. Whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is not effort without error and shortcoming; who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who have tasted neither victory no defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt
Whenever someone asks you, “Who do you think you are?”, are they asking you, “Hey buddy, tell us a little bit about yourself, we’d really like to know. You seem like an interesting dude we’d like to get know better.” Are they being friendly — trying to make you their new, nice friend?
No! Of course not. They’re poking you the chest, disrespecting you, talking down to you.
What they really mean is: How dare you?!
That’s what they’re demanding an answer to, in a bunch of different ways:
How dare you think you can be whatever you want to be?!
How dare you think you can be anything other than what we (I and the rest of us) approve of?!
How dare you be so bold to think you can?!
How dare you be different, unique, creative, confident, think for yourself, walk your path in life?!
How dare you don’t take and eat the crap and nonsense the rest of us do?!
How dare you won’t bow down, be humble, modest, and mediocre?!
How dare you don’t make nice to get along?!
How dare you choose to strive for greatness in your life?!
How dare you don’t cower in the face of challenge?!
How dare you shun fear and doubt?!
Basically it all boils down to this:
How D-A-R-E you OWN your life?!
And the more daring you are in your goal to succeed at life on your OWN terms, and the more successful you become at it, the angrier and more condescending tone in which they ask the question.
And they call US the arrogant ones.
We’ve all been on the receiving end of it.
All you have to do to become a target of it is have dreams. Believe in yourself and that you have something unique inside of you to do — say, fulfill a destiny — and you quickly become a problem for a lot of people. If you desire to live a life different than the mundane existence of most others, the cross-hairs are set upon you. If you want to step out the robotic line others are standing in toe-to-heel just to see if there are any other opportunities that may be more exciting, more prosperous, more satisfying and fulfilling, be prepared to get your “audacity” shot down.
I got my first ugly dose of it when I was a junior in high school. I met with an uninspiring guidance counselor and about a minute-and-a-half into telling her my aspirations she scorned me to put to away my silly dreams of pursuing something significant in my life and get a job at a local factory and make a “stable and fulfilling” career out of that. Since then, even after achieving a high level of success at other things, it’s happen many other times.
I could understand it, even tolerate it, view it as someone trying to reach out and offer a helping hand if I was conducting my life irresponsibly, breaking the law, abusing social decencies, invading or violating other peoples freedoms and liberties, putting other human beings or myself in danger. But I’m not — and no can prove otherwise.
Doesn’t it amaze you that there is little criticism for those you really do seriously screw up their lives and the lives of others, but if you simply have a dream and the desire to do something different than other people, you’re the crazy one.
WHAT do you want to do?
You want to do WHAT?
Are you mad, crazy, WHAT?
Just WHAT is wrong with you?
You CAN’T be serious — are you?
You know what is crazier? When we take it to heart and mind and let it prevent us from becoming who our Creator truly intended and don’t live the best life we were born capable of.
I mean, are we really here just to pass time and NOT DO what is in our hearts? Are we supposed to NOT LISTEN to our gut instincts, turn away from the spirit that calls out to us from within? Are anxiety and frustration and despair and depression really what having this life is supposed to be all about? Are we really supposed to live our whole life just to end up owning a bunch of things that don’t matter but squander the OWN-ership of ourselves? I don’t believe so. And I hate to see others live their lives like they do. I do because I love life so damn much. And I can’t stand to see others not make the most of theirs.
Look at me. You think I ever imagined, when I was that young high school kid fumbling around with figuring out why a guidance counselor would be so deliberately uninspiring, that I was going to one day create a persona that would inspire people all over the world? Or that they would one day ask me how I do what I do to make my live work and keep living an inspired life?
Go figure. Here I am, though. And I’m sure as hell glad I never told my inner voice to shut up so many times that a day came when it listened to me. Being thought of as whackjob for simply believing in myself is nothing compared to the no-self-belief wreck I might have turned to out be if my inner voice would’ve quit on me. Maybe even a dead wreck — like the others who buried their inner voices so deep they now lie in silence forever.
Everyday somebody writes me and ask, “Warrior, How do you do it? Where to you find the drive, stamina, and confidence to live life on your own terms? How do you stay strong in your belief in yourself and your abilities to pursue other goals and achievements others would never expect of you, or even try? Don’t you have doubts and fears?”
Hell yeah, sure, I have doubts and apprehensions sometimes. I have ebbs and flows like very human being. I have positive times. I have negative times. I have inspired days. I have not so inspired days. My whole life. Like you. Just like you — and every other human being.
What I don’t do is stop fighting back. I get up and keep throwing punches. I take on the attitude of warrior standing on the battlefield — bring the best shots you got, LIFE, you may kill me, but you will never beat me. I never stop trying. What was it Yodi said? “Do or do not. There is no try.” Fuck Yodi. Sometimes there is nothing but try. And when that is all you have you keep at it until you DO.
When my doubts, fears, and lack of confidence and belief get out of line too much, I pull myself in and get regrounded to the three fundamental tools all of us are Created with to make our lives work: Body, Mind and Soul.
Everything we do and that happens to us in our lives flows out of the power and function of these. I get my drive, stamina, and confidence to live life on my OWN terms by always keeping up the work it takes to exercise, inspire and empower these three things. This is how you fulfill the potential of the life you were born with. This is how you live your best life. This is how you succeed. By giving these three things the time, energy and attention they deserve. Never neglecting them.
You may be thinking you don’t have what it takes to make your life work in a great way, live a great life. You may believe that for your life to work in a great way you need to have more things — or things other than what you possess right now. This is not true. Actually, the problem with most people is that they have not worked hard enough to develop these valuable and powerful things they already have in their possession.
It’s simple, but it isn’t easy. What warrior would want a life that was? You have to work at it — and you have to work HARD. DAMN HARD. There is no other way. You have to constantly make adjustments in each to sustain a proper balance between the three, so that you are receptive to the highest levels of inspiration and energy possible.
Ironically, it was the imagination and creativity and intensity I engaged to create and perform the Ultimate Warrior persona that made me realize the vital relationship between our Body, Mind, and Soul.
What we do with ourselves physically, what thoughts we think (how well we use our ability to think), and what we believe about something bigger than our life here on this planet, our destiny — these three things work hand in hand with one another. And they will not cut you any slack. When the power and quality of one of these suffer, the power and the quality of our life overall suffers, too.
And about inspiration and energy — you have to be always hungry and always hunt inspiration down and generate energy yourself, on your OWN. Hunger, my warrior friends, is what drives devotion.
You cannot depend on the world and people around you to provide you with the inspiration, motivation and energy it takes. You have to constantly expose yourself (daily) to learning knowledge to improve and inspire these three things. It’s out there. You have to go it. It doesn’t just fall from the sky.
Man has been thinking and writing about ways to better himself and stay positive and inspired since the beginning of time. Start with what is out there. This is what I have done — and it is still what I do every single day. And every moment I have spent has done nothing but empower my life and made it better.
There are various ways to get the same positive and inspired results. What knowledge inspires me to improve myself, might not work for you. Don’t worry, though. You’ll recognize the knowledge and strategies that will work for you when you cross paths with them. Your instincts will let you know.
Don’t let yourself become overwhelmed. Not everything works for everybody. That’s why it’s important to stay at it. Do it everyday. Take what works for you and move on.
My goal with this Ultimate Warrior E-zine is to help get you on the right track, turn you on to some great works of inspiration. In each Ultimate Warrior E-zine I will provide encouragement, influence, and direction in my OWN unique and intense Warrior way.
You can do it. You are Created capable. You were born to do nothing less. If a little punk kid born into this world James Brian Hellwig can do it, I know you can.
So, again, welcome, fellow warrior, not only to the First issue of Ultimate Warrior E-zine. Welcome, too, to the first day of the rest of your life.
Just how Great and Powerful will you choose to make the remainder of it?
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity,
Hello fellow warrior,
Free Will. An incredible power. An incredible responsibility.
Simple things like right or wrong, true or false, good or bad, accurate or inaccurate, effective or ineffective, constructive of destructive, proper or improper…what side you come down is regulated by how you choose to use your Free Will.
Every moment of your life you have the power to choose not only which direction your immediate life will head but where your life will end up down the road, as well. Days, month, and years from now, you will find yourself in the exact destination you drove yourself while being the sole designated driver of your choices.
Wherever you find yourself in your life, to know how you got there, look in the rearview mirror. It may do a great job of making the memories and timelines of the choices you’ve made all fuzzy and faded, but the consequences of your choices, of them, the rearview mirror holds not the magic power to erase.
The consequences…they hang on for the ride, all the way to the end. To haunt or help, they sit in the backseat, crunched up on their haunches on the edge of that rear seat, their fingers clinched around the two tiny bars of the headrest, pulling the faces of their histories up close enough to be breathing down the back of your neck, screaming and whispering, taunting and telling, never letting you forget what damages and deeds you’ve left behind on the highways you’ve traveled in your life.
Free Will is the only Master with Power enough to control the Monster’s appearance in the rearview mirror.
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity –