How Dare You!
“In the battle of life it is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbled, or where the doer of a deed could have done better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena. Whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs and comes up short again and again, because there is not effort without error and shortcoming; who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows the great enthusiasms, the great devotions, spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end triumph of high achievement; and who, at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who have tasted neither victory no defeat.”
~ Theodore Roosevelt
Whenever someone asks you, “Who do you think you are?”, are they asking you, “Hey buddy, tell us a little bit about yourself, we’d really like to know. You seem like an interesting dude we’d like to get know better.” Are they being friendly — trying to make you their new, nice friend?
No! Of course not. They’re poking you the chest, disrespecting you, talking down to you.
What they really mean is: How dare you?!
That’s what they’re demanding an answer to, in a bunch of different ways:
How dare you think you can be whatever you want to be?!
How dare you think you can be anything other than what we (I and the rest of us) approve of?!
How dare you be so bold to think you can?!
How dare you be different, unique, creative, confident, think for yourself, walk your path in life?!
How dare you don’t take and eat the crap and nonsense the rest of us do?!
How dare you won’t bow down, be humble, modest, and mediocre?!
How dare you don’t make nice to get along?!
How dare you choose to strive for greatness in your life?!
How dare you don’t cower in the face of challenge?!
How dare you shun fear and doubt?!
Basically it all boils down to this:
How D-A-R-E you OWN your life?!
And the more daring you are in your goal to succeed at life on your OWN terms, and the more successful you become at it, the angrier and more condescending tone in which they ask the question.
And they call US the arrogant ones.
We’ve all been on the receiving end of it.
All you have to do to become a target of it is have dreams. Believe in yourself and that you have something unique inside of you to do — say, fulfill a destiny — and you quickly become a problem for a lot of people. If you desire to live a life different than the mundane existence of most others, the cross-hairs are set upon you. If you want to step out the robotic line others are standing in toe-to-heel just to see if there are any other opportunities that may be more exciting, more prosperous, more satisfying and fulfilling, be prepared to get your “audacity” shot down.
I got my first ugly dose of it when I was a junior in high school. I met with an uninspiring guidance counselor and about a minute-and-a-half into telling her my aspirations she scorned me to put to away my silly dreams of pursuing something significant in my life and get a job at a local factory and make a “stable and fulfilling” career out of that. Since then, even after achieving a high level of success at other things, it’s happen many other times.
I could understand it, even tolerate it, view it as someone trying to reach out and offer a helping hand if I was conducting my life irresponsibly, breaking the law, abusing social decencies, invading or violating other peoples freedoms and liberties, putting other human beings or myself in danger. But I’m not — and no can prove otherwise.
Doesn’t it amaze you that there is little criticism for those you really do seriously screw up their lives and the lives of others, but if you simply have a dream and the desire to do something different than other people, you’re the crazy one.
WHAT do you want to do?
You want to do WHAT?
Are you mad, crazy, WHAT?
Just WHAT is wrong with you?
You CAN’T be serious — are you?
You know what is crazier? When we take it to heart and mind and let it prevent us from becoming who our Creator truly intended and don’t live the best life we were born capable of.
I mean, are we really here just to pass time and NOT DO what is in our hearts? Are we supposed to NOT LISTEN to our gut instincts, turn away from the spirit that calls out to us from within? Are anxiety and frustration and despair and depression really what having this life is supposed to be all about? Are we really supposed to live our whole life just to end up owning a bunch of things that don’t matter but squander the OWN-ership of ourselves? I don’t believe so. And I hate to see others live their lives like they do. I do because I love life so damn much. And I can’t stand to see others not make the most of theirs.
Look at me. You think I ever imagined, when I was that young high school kid fumbling around with figuring out why a guidance counselor would be so deliberately uninspiring, that I was going to one day create a persona that would inspire people all over the world? Or that they would one day ask me how I do what I do to make my live work and keep living an inspired life?
Go figure. Here I am, though. And I’m sure as hell glad I never told my inner voice to shut up so many times that a day came when it listened to me. Being thought of as whackjob for simply believing in myself is nothing compared to the no-self-belief wreck I might have turned to out be if my inner voice would’ve quit on me. Maybe even a dead wreck — like the others who buried their inner voices so deep they now lie in silence forever.
Everyday somebody writes me and ask, “Warrior, How do you do it? Where to you find the drive, stamina, and confidence to live life on your own terms? How do you stay strong in your belief in yourself and your abilities to pursue other goals and achievements others would never expect of you, or even try? Don’t you have doubts and fears?”
Hell yeah, sure, I have doubts and apprehensions sometimes. I have ebbs and flows like very human being. I have positive times. I have negative times. I have inspired days. I have not so inspired days. My whole life. Like you. Just like you — and every other human being.
What I don’t do is stop fighting back. I get up and keep throwing punches. I take on the attitude of warrior standing on the battlefield — bring the best shots you got, LIFE, you may kill me, but you will never beat me. I never stop trying. What was it Yodi said? “Do or do not. There is no try.” Fuck Yodi. Sometimes there is nothing but try. And when that is all you have you keep at it until you DO.
When my doubts, fears, and lack of confidence and belief get out of line too much, I pull myself in and get regrounded to the three fundamental tools all of us are Created with to make our lives work: Body, Mind and Soul.
Everything we do and that happens to us in our lives flows out of the power and function of these. I get my drive, stamina, and confidence to live life on my OWN terms by always keeping up the work it takes to exercise, inspire and empower these three things. This is how you fulfill the potential of the life you were born with. This is how you live your best life. This is how you succeed. By giving these three things the time, energy and attention they deserve. Never neglecting them.
You may be thinking you don’t have what it takes to make your life work in a great way, live a great life. You may believe that for your life to work in a great way you need to have more things — or things other than what you possess right now. This is not true. Actually, the problem with most people is that they have not worked hard enough to develop these valuable and powerful things they already have in their possession.
It’s simple, but it isn’t easy. What warrior would want a life that was? You have to work at it — and you have to work HARD. DAMN HARD. There is no other way. You have to constantly make adjustments in each to sustain a proper balance between the three, so that you are receptive to the highest levels of inspiration and energy possible.
Ironically, it was the imagination and creativity and intensity I engaged to create and perform the Ultimate Warrior persona that made me realize the vital relationship between our Body, Mind, and Soul.
What we do with ourselves physically, what thoughts we think (how well we use our ability to think), and what we believe about something bigger than our life here on this planet, our destiny — these three things work hand in hand with one another. And they will not cut you any slack. When the power and quality of one of these suffer, the power and the quality of our life overall suffers, too.
And about inspiration and energy — you have to be always hungry and always hunt inspiration down and generate energy yourself, on your OWN. Hunger, my warrior friends, is what drives devotion.
You cannot depend on the world and people around you to provide you with the inspiration, motivation and energy it takes. You have to constantly expose yourself (daily) to learning knowledge to improve and inspire these three things. It’s out there. You have to go it. It doesn’t just fall from the sky.
Man has been thinking and writing about ways to better himself and stay positive and inspired since the beginning of time. Start with what is out there. This is what I have done — and it is still what I do every single day. And every moment I have spent has done nothing but empower my life and made it better.
There are various ways to get the same positive and inspired results. What knowledge inspires me to improve myself, might not work for you. Don’t worry, though. You’ll recognize the knowledge and strategies that will work for you when you cross paths with them. Your instincts will let you know.
Don’t let yourself become overwhelmed. Not everything works for everybody. That’s why it’s important to stay at it. Do it everyday. Take what works for you and move on.
My goal with this Ultimate Warrior E-zine is to help get you on the right track, turn you on to some great works of inspiration. In each Ultimate Warrior E-zine I will provide encouragement, influence, and direction in my OWN unique and intense Warrior way.
You can do it. You are Created capable. You were born to do nothing less. If a little punk kid born into this world James Brian Hellwig can do it, I know you can.
So, again, welcome, fellow warrior, not only to the First issue of Ultimate Warrior E-zine. Welcome, too, to the first day of the rest of your life.
Just how Great and Powerful will you choose to make the remainder of it?
Your Founding Father of Life Intensity,